I love spring. Who doesn’t? One of the things I love about spring is that I get to clean out my closets and dressers, deep clean my bathrooms and kitchen… throwing myself into that yearly ritual of getting rid of what doesn’t fit me or my life any longer in order to make room for the possibility of something different… a new pair of shoes, a new arm chair for the family room… a new life?…

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My Holiday List



Lately I’ve been reading a lot about the holidays: what to cook, how to decorate, what to buy (and what to ask for…). And gradually it dawned on me -- these articles are all about what to do for others, or what to ask others to do for you!



Don’t get me wrong – I think “doing for others” is generous and noble and kind. Problem is, when you’re going through a divorce, there’s likely to be a whole lot of “doing for others”, and usually not an “Other” to do for… Continue

I often hear this from clients:



“I didn’t tell my wife I was unhappy because I didn’t want to hurt her.”

“I haven’t told my children I’m sick because I don’t want them to worry.”

“I can’t tell my boyfriend I want to see other people because he’d be upset.”

In other words: “I can’t tell you the truth because I don’t want to hurt you . . .”



You have probably used this reasoning yourself, as justification for not speaking your truth. I know I have. The irony is… Continue